In Greek mythology, Cronus swallowed his children to prevent a prophecy that one of them would overthrow him. However, it was his wife, Rhea, who saved her son, Zeus, by tricking Cronus into swallowing a stone instead. Kudos to Mom for that one!
While acts of parricide (killing one’s parents) and fratricide (killing one’s siblings) have become less common since the 1800s – thanks to modern state structures, succession laws, and diminished dynastic power; mothers continue to play a crucial role as peacekeepers within the family. Rightfully so, they have earned titles like mediator, diplomat, and countless other terms that capture the essence of “this family would fall apart without mom.” This Mother’s Day, let us recognize a vital yet often overlooked maternal role: keeping the peace and preventing family members from battling it out.
Spats between siblings on the playground often lay the groundwork for conflicts that extend into adulthood, particularly when it comes to the division of their deceased parents’ estates. Although the classic childhood mischief of catapulting your brother or sister off the seesaw does make for top-tier entertainment, those early battles can spark lasting feelings of unfairness.
In adulthood, these unresolved tensions frequently reemerge during inheritance disputes. Suddenly, “you always got the good swing” turns into “mom always lent you money, so why do we have to split the house?” Disputes over money, property, or family heirlooms can reignite old rivalries, with siblings slipping back into familiar roles – just with higher stakes. What began as sandbox squabbles can evolve into full-blown estate wars, proving that some childhood arguments never really die, they just get more expensive.
We see it in our conference room all the time – siblings tell us mom was the glue that held the family together, and how her passing has led to a breakdown in family dynamics. It is a heartbreaking outcome, and likely the last thing mom would have wanted. Fortunately, we focus on helping mothers take proactive steps to preserve family harmony and ensure their legacy supports lasting unity, even after they are gone.
Why Estate Planning Matters for Moms (and Dads too).
This can all be achieved through proper estate planning. But what exactly does that mean – and why does it matter for every mom, including yourself if you are a mom? Think of it as creating a clear, legally binding roadmap for your loved ones. It outlines how your assets, such as your home, bank accounts, and treasured belongings, should be handled. If you have minor children (under 18 years of age), it will dictate who will care for them. With estate planning, your wishes are not just known — they are followed, because you have made them clear and easy for your family to carry out.
Although planning for the end of life may feel awkward, think of it as a gift to your family. The purpose of a well-crafted estate plan is to save your family money, time, and stress in the chaotic aftermath following the death of a loved one. By getting your affairs in order now, you will provide them and yourself with peace of mind. This will save your family a great deal of anxiety, time, and money so they can focus on their grief.
We are here to help. Taking the first step is easier than you think. That is why we created a simple estate planning checklist to get you started. (We know moms love checklists!)
Step 1: START THINKING
What do you want to leave to your loved ones? Thoughts such as:
- Who will my children live with?
- Will everyone get an equal percentage?
- Who will receive my home?
- Should I leave anything for my grandchildren?
- Who will take care of my pets?
Step 2: IMPORTANT ACTORS
Start thinking about the important actors in your life. Who will be in charge of handling day-to-day matters like contacting your banks, selling your home, and distributing your assets to your loved ones?
Step 3: TAKE INVENTORY
Make a list of what you own:
- Items of sentimental value
- Real Estate
- Jewelry, Art, Family heirlooms
- Vehicles
- Financial Accounts
Step 4: LOCATE USEFUL DOCUMENTS
- Bank and investment account statements
- Insurance policies
- Deeds to real estate and car titles
- List of digital assets
- Outstanding debt
- Prepaid funeral plan contract
Step 5: SCHEDULE A CONSULTATION
- We will organize all your thoughts and provide you with a detailed estate plan tailored to your family’s needs.
- Our attorneys speak English, Spanish, and Russian.
To help ensure the continuity of diplomatic relations, peace, and harmony between your children even after you are gone, contact us for a free consultation at (954) 251-0332 or info@ocestatelawyers.com.
